Have you ever reacted to a situation in a way that felt disproportionate or out of your control? Perhaps you became overwhelmingly angry over a minor disappointment, or felt intense anxiety when receiving constructive feedback? These moments often reveal parts of ourselves that operate beneath our conscious awareness. By understanding the concept of our ‘inner family’, consisting of the inner child, inner parent, and inner adult, we can gain valuable insights into our emotional responses and behavioural patterns.

When was the last time you spoke to yourself with genuine kindness? Do you struggle to set boundaries or feel overwhelmed by your emotions? Perhaps you’ve noticed that your inner voice often sounds critical rather than supportive. These experiences often reflect our relationship with our inner parent: that internalised voice that guides, comforts, and sometimes criticises us as we move through life.

Do you constantly criticise yourself for mistakes or imperfections? Do you neglect your basic needs (such as rest, nutrition, and health)? Are you overly permissive with yourself, lacking healthy limits and self-discipline? Do you find it difficult to celebrate your achievements? Are you uncomfortable practising self-compassion? If so, your inner parent may benefit from attention and healing.

Do you frequently feel overwhelmed by adult responsibilities? Do you find yourself reacting emotionally in situations that call for grounded reflection? Do you often seek external validation or struggle to set and maintain boundaries with others? If so, your inner adult may need attention and healing.